Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Stick it out!!

People! Do you think that everyone just gives up on things in life......NO! If that were true, we wouldn't have a light bulb, or computers, or Iphones!! So why is it we feel like we can just give up, when our marriages get hard!

Ok I am better and maybe this part wont be yelling. But I am frustrated that so many think it is ok to get divorced simply because it is too hard, or there is no more spark. Come on, sparks are made, and the happiest of couples have had there down time too!! They just stuck through it and are stronger for it.

Babies, buying new houses, kids living with us longer then they should, family dieing, and more, can cause a person to at different. A person acting different can be a reason why you may not feel a "spark." (hate that)(the word) Sometimes you need to "use your words." (as we tell children and then forget ourselves) Tell them what you need, want, or even (shocker) how you feel.

Don't get me wrong, I don't judge anyone for being divorced or getting one. I just think everyone now a days gives up too easy. The grass is not greener on the other side, and you will be lonely. I have many close friends and family who are divorced and it does not make them a bad person, I am looking at the thought put into a divorced not the people. Again, no judgment, just thoughts. There are reasons for divorce, I just don't like the lazy reasons.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

Working mom vs stay at home mom.

Wow the war we create when I think we each just envy the other, just a little bit.

The working mom feels bad for leaving her children, and having to go to work. Constantly waiting to get home to her children. Constantly rushing from one thing to the other, but somehow doing it all, but not feeling justified.

Then the stay at home mom, doing it all with her kids, from shopping, going to the bank, and even going to the bathroom. Getting it all done but desperately needing time to herself.

The stay at home mom does not wish to work all the time, but envies the break those mothers get from going to work, being around people who can hold a conversation. The working moms envy the fact that the stay at home moms get to wake up and go to the park with there kids and not worry about the time of when to get to work, or what they might have forgotten.

But some how, we all look at the other in an envious way, instead of a loving way. We must remember that the working mom may look like she does it all, but she is really just feeling like she is lacking. The stay at home mom may look like it is what she was born to do and have all the free time in the world, would love to organize your closet if it meant a little time to herself.

Neither one is wrong, just normal!